Wednesday, January 28, 2015

Dating Like A Big Boy

For the most part,  everyone wants to date at somepoint in their life.   Whether it's for fun,  looking for a life partner
or simply because they are bored on a friday night.  Dating is important for many people.

This isn't particularly a bad thing.   I've been on a few dates in my life.   Currenly being single there is that urge to stick
my head out there and see what is interesting.   Even in the past year there have been dates I've gone on (don't tell the
people i went with,  they probably don't realize we went out on a date).

So in many ways I can watch friends,  non friends and people in general with their struggles in dating.   Guys who treat
women like equals (good guys),  like pieces of furniture (not good guys) and guys who are truly confused about why they
are always looking for another date.

If there is anything that can be shared,  it's learning to date like a big boy.  This isn't just about paying the way and being a
'man's man'.  The simplicity of it all is to take a look at your own personal life and see what you bring to the table.

Joking with my friends (semi joking at times) there are a few things in people's lives that easily disqualify them from being
considered dating like a big boy.

1)   If a man lives with his parents because of finances of laziness
2)   He has been perpetually out of work for the past 5 years
3)   Cannot pay his bills but refuses to look for a better job
4)   Unwilling to improve himself
5)   Always wanting to go to his favorite places and things he wants to do.

A man who is dating 'like a big boy' steps up to the plate when his is needed.   He doesn't always try to fix things that have gone wrong but
he listens,  supports and even pushes a little in the right direction.  He understands that sometimes,  he won't get his own way.  Dating like a big
boy might mean not getting to go to your favorite resturant.   If your running short on money then perhaps that 2nd beer isn't an option.   Even showing up at the door with a bottle of juice and a 10 pck of chicken instead of worrying about having enough money for food,   drinks (especially for oneself) and that all important hotel room in the off chance the next monopoly championship is to be played that night.

That was one of the reasons I stopped looking to date for a little bit.  Seeing what I brought to the table I was lacking in a few places.  I had baggage that needed to be exercise.  Needing to work on my finances and even working on my attitude.   

The last thing for someone to look to date like a big boy is self improvement.   Whether it's education,  emotional,  financial or hundreds of different ways.    Big boys improve themselves the best they know how.   They improve themselves because the person they are with should be worth the time and effort.

So the next time that the guy lets you down.   Look and see whether he is really willing to date like a big boy.  If he's not,   then maybe it's time to look to tell him to put on his big boy pants and start to grow up.